It’s official, Kelsey and Camille Grammer are divorced. Reflecting on the divorce process, as well as what is to come, Camille told US Magazine: “I am grateful to my family and friends who have stood by me through this time – I will never forget their love and support. What I most hope is that Kelsey and I can improve our communications and truly co-parent our two wonderful children…”

As a family law attorney, many of my clients face the challenge of co-parenting after a divorce. Sometimes, a court will grant one parent sole legal custody, in which case that parent is solely responsible for making decisions relating to the minor child’s care, upbringing, educational training, religious training, social and recreational activities, medical care and treatment, and treatment of emotional needs. Other times, parents will share joint legal custody. When both parents are responsible for making decisions relating to their child’s welfare, and they need to make those decisions together, challenges can arise.

While some might think that parents inherently know how to co-parent after a divorce, realistically, it’s a learned skill. Think back to when you brought your son or daughter home from the hospital. Over those first few days, weeks and months, you had to learn how to be a parent; you had to learn how to change a diaper, what to feed the baby, and what her different cries meant. In this same way, co-parenting after a divorce is a skill that needs to be learned. You will need to learn how to put your relationship issues aside, and work together for the benefit of your children.

If you are interested in learning parenting skills for divorcing parents, the San Diego Superior Court has a list of class providers.